Finding other moms like you
>> Tuesday, October 11, 2011 –
baby blues,
postpartum depression,
support
People often say that raising kids is “the hardest thing you’ll ever do.” I’ve found it to be true but also a gross understatement. When I had my first child, comments like, “It will get better” didn’t offer much encouragement to me. Instead, I took solace from a woman who candidly proclaimed to me (in church), “It was hell the first few months. I hated it.” I wasn’t alone.
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I didn't hate my baby or hate being a mother. Quite the opposite. I was in love with my daughter, possibly a little obsessed. Ok, definitely obsessed (will get to that later). I hated always feeling inadequate. I hated not being in control. I hated that instead of becoming a more warm, patient, joyful person, motherhood had made me anxious, jumpy, and cynical.
Most of my mom friends are the "I <heart> being a mom" type, but there are a handful who are the "I hated it" type. I leaned on the "I hated it" type more in the beginning, but more recently, I have also found real encouragement and great tips from the "I <heart> being a mom" type. It's good to have both.
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I definitely hear you. Raising kids is unbelievably difficult -- there's no controlling them, only hopefully influencing them (kindof like adults...). It's good to hear from other mothers who had it rough, so that we don't feel alone. But the enthusiastic types somewhat balance things out by providing a bit of hope. I think it depends on where you're at.